Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Going Mobile 

The current subject of my research is student mobility. We live in a very mobile society and a lot of students change schools on a regular basis. Sometimes a parent gets a new job in a new city and a change in schools is required. However, research shows that about half of the residence changes of families with school age children occur within the same county. Move a mile away and change schools. Rinse and repeat. The cause? Take your pick ….. family instability, lack of affordable low income housing, custody issues, “rent skipping”, transportation ….the list is quite long. Sometimes it just can’t be helped, but in many cases it seems senseless.

I have enrolled students in March who were attending their 5th school in the same school year. It only makes sense that kids who change schools that frequently are likely to fall behind in learning. There is a ton of research out there that ties frequent school changes to a higher risk of everything from dropping out of school, to achieving lower scores on standardized tests, to being more likely to be referred to special education programs. In many cases it is the kids that are most at risk who keep changing schools. Getting complete records, even from schools within your own urban district, can be a time consuming and tedious process. By the time records are finally received, teachers get to know the student a little, things begin to settle down and the kid makes friends…bam, they are out the door and down the road. It is so frustrating sometimes!

I had a student last year who started out the year in our school. He left in October to live with grandparents in Houston. That lasted a month or two and he was with an uncle somewhere in rural Oklahoma. From there he came back to another school in our district. He got in trouble there and ended up back with us in February. How much learning did he do in that time? He didn’t have any grades from anywhere, all the schools saying he wasn’t there long enough to earn grades. This makes him likely to be retained in the same grade. This in turn makes it twice as likely he will drop out of school. And so it goes.

My latest project is researching initiatives that individual schools, districts, and states could use to reduce mobility and give some of these kids a chance at success.



Friday, July 27, 2007

Big Brother? 

I was curious. Somewhere I had read of how private companies such as Lexis Nexis keep databases on average citizens like me and I was curious what could possibly be in such a report. So I anted up the $8.00 and sent for a copy of my report. I was quite surprised at the information that came back in a thick packet. What was in there?

Big Brother may be keeping track but he needs to get his act together!


Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Midweek Meanderings 

It is midweek and it hasn’t even rained for the past few days. Now it is just hot. We knew it had to come sometime!

I had some dental work done yesterday and my mouth is a bit sore this morning. The pain meds are doing their job pretty well though. I slept soundly last night.

Today it is the kid’s turn to go to the dentist. Patrick is unfazed but Aubree keeps threatening to hide under the bed and not come out.

The bliss of summer is rapidly winding down. I’ll officially report to work in the middle of next week and begin preparing for the school year. The kids go back to school on August 22nd. Aubree is ready to go back to school and see all of her friends!

Our tomato and jalapeno plants are putting out like crazy. We pick fresh tomatoes and jalapenos almost every day! We like to make our own salsa, and having fresh ingredients from our own garden makes it taste all the better.

I read this story with interest. I’ve seen a lot of this kind of behavior in schools, kids running up and slapping each other on the butt and other inappropriate touching. I’ve spent many hours talking to kids, especially boys, about how this kind of touching can get you in a lot of trouble. The thirteen year old boys in the article certainly found that out. They face possible sex offender registration for slapping girls on the butt. If this was an isolated case of immature behavior from them I would question the notion of placing them on a sex offender registration that could follow them for life. It is important to keep everyone safe in school, but I think it is a bit overboard to tar a child for life over an incident like the one described.

I’m doing a research paper on student mobility and how it affects academic performance. It is not uncommon for us to receive a new student in March who has already attended several other schools in that same year. This has become an increasing problem for schools who are accountable for these students who bounce around constantly from school to school.

Some urban schools, including the one I worked at last year, have mobility rates of up to 80%. This means that four out of five students have changed to this school in the previous two years.

Terri and I spent hours playing Trivial Pursuit – The 80’s Edition a few nights ago. We finally gave up because I couldn’t seem to answer any question about 80’s movies and she couldn’t answer any of the sports questions. She is excellent on the movies and music sections and I kick some butt in the sports and history questions. We’d make a great team!

Vickie has Georgia on her mind. I’ll have to visit some day. The only time I’ve ever spent in Georgia was at the Atlanta airport!

We went to the home of one of Terri’s friends for a dinner party. The food was delicious! Then our hostess came out with shot glasses and filled them with tequila. These were very large shot glasses and mine was filled almost to the top. I looked around and saw everyone else’s glasses about half full. What’s up with that? It has been a long time since I’ve done shots of tequila…a very long time! I wondered to myself if I should ask for some of my shot to be poured back out, but the male ego in me won out. I chugged the glass and made the mistake of letting the tequila swirl around in my mouth before swallowing. Whew!! I passed on further rounds of shots.

Aubree starts voice lessons soon. She has a beautiful singing voice which should only improve with some training. She’s very excited!

So how is YOUR week going?



Sunday, July 22, 2007

Tammy Faye 

I’ll admit it. I thought Tammy Faye Bakker was a joke in the 1980’s. I remember all the jokes about her makeup and thought it was ridiculous that a grown woman would go on television and make such a spectacle of herself. It is hard to take someone with mascara running everywhere very seriously. I thought there was some justice when Jim and Tammy Faye’s empire came tumbling down and he went to jail. They later divorced and she remarried.

At one time she was on top of the world, running a multi-million dollar television ministry with her husband. Money was pouring in by the bucketful and she probably didn’t care a bit that people like me were making jokes about her makeup. She had her husband, her ministry, tons of money, and celebrity….things we would refer to as being the signs of a successful life. When it all came to an end she could’ve quietly disappeared into the woodwork, like so many of the fallen do.

But the little lady had more substance than what we saw on television and she had more chutzpah than I would’ve ever given her credit for. She overcame a drug addiction, a divorce, and financial ruin and kept right on going. She remade and rebuilt her life, found a man to share her life with, causes to support, and books to write. She didn’t give up, such a tempting thing to do.

Then came the cancer, which began spreading throughout her body. It took her to a shadow of her former self, dropping down to 60 pounds and taking morphine injections just to get through the day. I occasionally read stories about her and I became impressed with her spirit. Your body may rebel but no disease can take your spirit or steal your humanity. My amusement at her past antics turned into something very different….admiration. In obvious pain she appeared on Larry King’s show, acknowledging her mistakes but proud of her life and her love for her family and friends. She also posted on her website less than a week ago.

I know longer see mascara. I see courage and conviction.

Tammy Faye, you faced death like we should face life. God bless you.


Friday, July 20, 2007


Time has gotten away from me today. We have been busy!

Aubree insisted on going with my to my work today. Her objective? To "pimp out" my office. Can a school administrator really have a "pimped out" office? I told her she needed to start her own TV show...."Pimp My Office!"

She and I were in the bookstore and she became emotional when she saw the book...."Puff The Magic Dragon". She said, "You used to always sing that song to me! Can you put it on my IPOD?" My, how they do grow up.

I'll be back around this weekend. In the meantime....don't do anything I wouldn't do. Of course, that does leave a lot of possibilities for you to work with.

Have a wonderful weekend my friends!


Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Midweek Meanderings 

Have you ever started on a remodeling project that turned into a lot more than you originally planned? I originally intended to patch and paint the walls on Patrick’s room. I ended up putting up white paneling throughout the room and setting up a computer desk. Then the entry to his room didn’t match the room so I put the white paneling up there too. Then of course I had to add trim and new curtains.

As a carpenter…well, I’m a pretty good school administrator. When I was sweating and sawing I asked Terri if it was giving her fantasies of Norm Abrams (from “This Old House”). Unfortunately, she didn’t know who Norm was, but she did remember Bob Villa and no fantasies of his handiwork were forthcoming. Of course if I had Norm’s tools I wouldn’t have this purple spot under one of my fingernails from hitting it with the hammer.

Patrick’s room looks great now. I did inform him that if I had to go back and do more repairs because of his “experiments” that I would be charging him the cost of materials and my labor. He starts his first job at school this fall and will bring home a couple hundred bucks a month. I told him that he could either spend and save his own money or pay me to fix up his room. He thought the saving and spending sounded a little better.

Speaking of money, I got a nice raise with my latest promotion. You gotta love that.

I was saddened to read of Lady Bird Johnson’s passing. She certainly saw and lived a lot during her life, didn’t she?

This slideshow on Google Earth is kinda creepy!

I took the stuff from my old office which had been sitting in the trunk of my car for a month and took to my new office. The office area in my new school is a large circle in the middle of the entry hall and my office is on the rim of the circle. The walls curve and at first I thought I was just seeing things!

I’m smelling the brisket that Terri is slow cooking as I type this. Mmmm…mmmmm!

Here is someone’s list of the ten worst ever cover songs. Dolly Parton sang a version of “Stairway To Heaven”? Cringe. I have to disagree with him on Clapton’s unplugged version of “Layla”. Both versions are great songs. Somewhere in this list you’d have to have any cover performed by William Shatner or Leonard Nimory.

Don’t forget to stop by Aka Monty’s place and make a pledge for her blogathon. She’ll even do a “white girl rap” for all of us if she raises enough money for cerebral palsy research. Hmm….I wonder if she’d slow it down and sing Barbra Streisand’s “The Way We Were”? ;)

So how is YOUR week going?


Monday, July 16, 2007


In spite of my knowledge of the Jonestown massacre/suicide, I had never before listened to the recording. I have read books and seen the movie with Powers Boothe playing the role of Jonestown leader Jim Jones. I have long been both horrified and fascinated with this terrible tragedy. How did a man like Jones persuade 1000 people to move to the jungle of Guyana, surrender all of their property and possessions to him, and ultimately, follow him to their death? I was in high school at the time and could not comprehend such an act.

Tonight while surfing around I came across a link with the sound recording of Jones explaining to his followers why they all had to commit suicide. A woman named Christine and a couple of others dissented but they were shouted down by others. Many yelled and cheered as Jones told them it was time to commit “revolutionary suicide”. He explains how somehow he knows that some his followers followed a visiting congressman and reporters to their waiting plane and opened fire on them. He told them that soldiers would soon be parachuting in and would torture their children and the senior citizens. To prevent this everyone had to die. He grew agitated as some people become reluctant and some of the children became hysterical. In the end it is believed that he shot and killed himself, avoiding the 5-10 minutes of suffering from they cyanide that his followers had to endure.

Because of the movie I had always imagined a deep voiced, authoritative, charismatic man. What I heard was someone with a pronounced lisp whose inane rationalizations and lies should have been obvious even to his devoted followers. How did THIS guy do it? I can’t imagine myself following him across the street.

Reading about Jones tells us that he recruited to his church many of society’s outcasts. He brought in drug users, homeless people, battered women, and others who had been through traumatic events in their life. He built them up and made them feel like they were part of something. Many overlooked his financial shenanigans and sexual escapades. They wanted to believe….and they did believe in his mixture of Christianity, socialism, communism, and utopianism. When you can’t find something to believe in you often find someone to believe in.

What Jones tapped into was basic need. We all want to find meaning in our lives, to ascertain what we are doing here, what our purpose is, how we can find peace. We also want to be part of something larger than ourselves, to feel needed, to feel like we belong. Many people spend a large part of their lives searching for the answers.

Over 900 people had their search end with a cup of cyanide-laced fruit drink in a Guyanese jungle. I can't believe its been almost 30 years.


Saturday, July 14, 2007

They're Baaaaack! 

Both of the kids are home from their summer camp adventures. We drove down yesterday to pick up Patrick from his camp and Aubree arrived yesterday afternoon.

Patrick sounded like he had a delightful time at camp. The gentlemen pictured with him is Darrell, Patrick's full-time camp "buddy" all week. Darrell is almost seventy years old, but he followed Patrick everywhere and participated with him in a ropes course, arts and crafts, canoeing, and archery. Patrick was quite taken with this very gracious gentleman who gave a week of his time to spend time at camp. Darrell has been working with special needs children for over 25 years. He told me that this was a highlight of his year and he hoped his health would permit him to keep returning. After a week chasing Patrick he could probably use some rest!

Patrick told me that he had a great time but started getting homesick the day before it was time to leave. He's ready to go back.....just not anytime soon!

Aubree had a good time as well, but she did complain of a lack of sleep staying in a dormitory room full of 6th/7th grade girls. However, she did enjoy the worship services, the refreshment stand, and the chance to run and play with her friends.

While they were gone we took the opportunity to tackle a big chore....Patrick's room! We hauled everything out of the room and installed nice white paneling over the walls that he put some holes in during one of his creative moments. I also bought him a computer desk and chair and set him up with my old computer. He's so happy about the changes that he hasn't really noticed all of the junk I threw away!

I knew they were both back when an argument over the TV started. Ahhhh, normalcy!


Thursday, July 12, 2007

Book Banning 

In this article a mother is demanding that over 80 books be removed from the school libraries where her children attend school. Why? Because she states that the books, “promote sin and lies”.

She targets literary genres ranging from reference books to short stories. Among the books she wants removed are "Medical Ethics: Moral and Legal Conflicts in Health Care," "Warriors of God: Richard the Lionhearted and Saladin in the Third Crusade," "Coping When a Parent is Gay" and "The Cider House Rules," a John Irving novel about a rural doctor who runs an orphanage and performs illegal abortions.

She also admits that she hasn’t read a single one of the books she is objecting to. Her request was rejected by a school committee of parents, teachers, and students as well as the principal and the superintendent. She is now appealing to the school board.

I have seen incidents such as this over the years. A kid brings home a book, a parent finds the material in the book objectionable, and makes their displeasure known. Years ago I had one particularly adamant father who wanted a book removed. I appointed him chairman of the committee to review library books for appropriateness. Not a single book was removed under his watch.

Of course there is certainly material that should not be available to children in a public school or city library and many books should be filtered on the basis of age. What is appropriate in a high school library might be highly inappropriate for an elementary school one. It is perfectly understandable that parents would not want their children to be checking pornographic, highly graphic, or other highly objectionable books from the library.

The question is….who gets to decide? The school library is not anyone’s personal library. I can almost guarantee that I would probably cringe at some of the titles in my daughter’s school library. When she brings home a library book I pick it up and quickly scan through it. That is my role as a parent…to monitor what my child does. It is not my job to monitor what every one else’s children read based on my personal standards. This school district seems to have a sensible solution – a committee of parents, teachers, and students who review controversial books.

Looking at the titles objected to above, none of them look inappropriate for a high school library. Do we not want kids to read books about medical ethics? Is a study of the Crusades, a highly important historical event, off limits? It is very likely that there will be high school students who live with a gay parent. Perhaps they are having trouble dealing with the situation. Is it wrong to deny them access to material that might help them navigate the issues surrounding gay parents? I’m not a big fan of John Irving, but he is a well known, sometimes controversial author, and his books are certainly appropriate for a high school library.

I remember people trying to get “Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn” banned from libraries because of the racial vernacular used in a book written well over 100 years ago. There are people who would ban it today given the chance. Should we toss out “Catcher in the Rye” as well? Who wants to set a match to the bonfire?

I think a library should have Karl Marx on the shelf right next to Adam Smith, autobiographies of Malcom X and Robert E. Lee, books on both sides of the great debates of our day. There are a lot of good books out there on both sides of issues such as religion, the Iraq War, and abortion. Put ‘em in there. Of course there are books that don’t belong on the shelf and if one slips through there should be a rational process to remove it.

You fight ideas you don’t like with better ideas. You fight morals you object to by raising your kids with better morals. Parents raise children….not library books.


Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Midweek Meanderings 

It is midweek and it has been an enjoyable week indeed!

We saw the kids off to summer camp on Monday. I took Aubree to church to load her bus and head several hours south to the heart of the Arbuckle Mountains. We drove Patrick to Camp Gruber, about an hour and a half south of here. It was a beautiful day, a nice drive, and the scenery from the camp was gorgeous. We left Patrick in the capable care of his “buddy”, and it sounded like he was going to have a very fun week. He was especially excited about the prospect of shooting a BB gun.

While in the area we stopped in the little town of Krebs, a small Oklahoma town settled by Italian coal miners. The town is well known for its Italian restaurants and shops. We shopped in a small Italian grocery, picking up homemade sausages, cheese, and marinara sauce.

Then we spent Monday night at the Cherokee Casino Resort Hotel. I lost some money in the slot machines and made some of it back playing video poker. We had a couple of delicious margaritas and lounged in the hot tub. Our room was very nice, a great place to spend a relaxing evening!

My job for next year was finalized today. I will be the assistant principal at one of America’s most diverse high schools. All of my administrative experience has been at the middle school level, so this should be a good experience.

Tonight I grilled two of the most delicious steaks we’ve had in quite awhile. Yummy!

It has been a quiet week without the kids. We’ve enjoyed spending some time together, but of course we miss the kids and will be happy to see them home.

The lovely Aka Monty is blogging for cerebral palsy. Please stop by and join her effort!

So how is YOUR week going?



Sunday, July 08, 2007

The Nature of Humans 

Psychology Today has an article on their website called “Ten Politically Incorrect Truths About Human Nature”. These are things that the author believes to be true, is convinced that science can demonstrate, but may be controversial to state in today’s society. I thought it might be interesting to examine each one of them.

  1. Men like blond bombshells (and women want to look like them) – The article disagrees with the commonly accepted notion that popular media glorifies what men find attractive and what women wish to look like. They point out that women were dying their hair blonde centuries ago and that even in repressive countries women wish to have a Barbiesque physique. The assertion is that this is biologically driven, that shiny blonde hair is a sign of health, a slim waist indicates a greater ability to have children, large breasts signal fertility, etc.

Women's desire to look like Barbie—young with small waist, large breasts, long blond hair, and blue eyes—is a direct, realistic, and sensible response to the desire of men to mate with women who look like her. There is evolutionary logic behind each of these features.

Translation…. Gentlemen prefer blondes and blondes have more fun? Like many of the items here, this is predicated on the notion that men have a biological imperative to reproduce as much as possible and that young women with blonde hair, big breasts, blue eyes, and slim waists are the most likely women to successfully produce children with. Its all about the evolution, baby!

  1. Humans are naturally polygamous – I wrote about this some time ago in this post. There is certainly much in human history to indicate that monogamy does not come naturally. My friend Patrick commented on that post that monogamy evolved to keep men from killing each other in competition for women. Monogamy increases the number of available women as opposed to wealthy men monopolizing them in a polygamous society. The article agrees with Patrick’s assertion.

Among primate and nonprimate species, the degree of polygyny highly correlates with the degree to which males of a species are larger than females. The more polygynous the species, the greater the size disparity between the sexes. Typically, human males are 10 percent taller and 20 percent heavier than females. This suggests that, throughout history, humans have been mildly polygynous.

Translation – Tall dark handsome men get to have more sex and produce more children, thus increasing the average height of men as compared to women.

  1. Most women benefit from polygyny, while most men benefit from monogamy.

I found this one to be interesting and somewhat counterintuitive. If you propose the idea of polygyny (one man marrying multiple women) to the average couple the woman will shrink at the idea, thinking, “I don’t want to have to share my guy with a bunch of other women.” Men, on the other hand, get a gleam in their eyes, pondering the idea that, “I get to have sex with a lot of women and not get in trouble for it. Whats not to like?”

Men in monogamous societies imagine they would be better off under polygyny. What they don't realize is that, for most men who are not extremely desirable, polygyny means no wife at all, or, if they are lucky, a wife who is much less desirable than one they could get under monogamy.

What the men don’t get is that for most of them it wouldn’t mean they would have a bunch of wives to have sex with. The Bill Gates of the world would have large harems of beautiful wives and be able to amply support all of them. Less wealthy but still well off men might have 3-4 wives. The average guy on the street? He’d be left out completely or forced to compete with all the other average guys for the small number of still available women.

As George Bernard Shaw puts it, "The maternal instinct leads a woman to prefer a tenth share in a first-rate man to the exclusive possession of a third-rate one."

Have you seen actor Fred Thompson’s wife? Total knockout. If he was Fred the plumber or Fred the grocery store bagger would he have attracted a woman like her? In a polygynous society women would flock to Fred the actor/politician. The other Freds would be left out in the cold.

Translation – Guys, you better watch for what you wish for. Girls, you don’t know what you’re missing!

  1. Most suicide bombers are Muslim – I think we already knew this, as I can’t remember any other type of suicide bomber. Almost all of them are Muslim. The author ties this to polygyny as mentioned above. Muslim society allows for polygyny, thus depleting the pool of available women for the guy on the street. There is also the mention of the 72 virgins available for Muslims who martyr themselves. Stay on Earth and have no wife and no sex or blow yourself up and find 72 virgins at your disposal?

It is the combination of polygyny and the promise of a large harem of virgins in heaven that motivates many young Muslim men to commit suicide bombings. Consistent with this explanation, all studies of suicide bombers indicate that they are significantly younger than not only the Muslim population in general but other (nonsuicidal) members of their own extreme political organizations like Hamas and Hezbollah. And nearly all suicide bombers are single.

Translation – the lack of sex and promise of it in the hereafter makes men blow themselves into little pieces.

  1. Having sons reduces the likelihood of divorce. – This one seemed a little puzzling to me. What possible difference could the child’s gender have to do with a decision to divorce?

Since a man's mate value is largely determined by his wealth, status, and power—whereas a woman's is largely determined by her youth and physical attractiveness—the father has to make sure that his son will inherit his wealth, status, and power, regardless of how much or how little of these resources he has. In contrast, there is relatively little that a father (or mother) can do to keep a daughter youthful or make her more physically attractive.

Translation – Beautiful girls will always have a leg up but guys need wealth and power to succeed. This affects the parent’s decision to divorce.

  1. Beautiful people have more daughters – Huh? I always believed that gender was a roll of the genetic dice. Heads you have a boy, tails it’s a girl! Au contraire says the author:

Physical attractiveness, while a universally positive quality, contributes even more to women's reproductive success than to men's. The generalized hypothesis would therefore predict that physically attractive parents should have more daughters than sons. Once again, this is the case. Americans who are rated "very attractive" have a 56 percent chance of having a daughter for their first child, compared with 48 percent for everyone else.

Translation – I’m not sure about this one. The reverse of this would be that ugly but wealthy people would be more likely to have boys, as wealth and power are the most desirable things they can pass down to their children.

  1. What Bill Gates and Paul McCartney have in common with criminals. – We all know that most criminal acts committed by men occur in their late teens and into their twenties. Relatively few of those crimes are committed in middle age. Is the same true for geniuses? Do they produce their best work at a young age and then tail off as they get older?

Paul McCartney has not written a hit song in years, and now spends much of his time painting. Bill Gates is now a respectable businessman and philanthropist, and is no longer a computer whiz kid. J.D. Salinger now lives as a total recluse and has not published anything in more than three decades. Orson Welles was a mere 26 when he wrote, produced, directed, and starred in Citizen Kane.

It could explain why so many of us in middle age revel in the glory that was our youth.

The similarity between Bill Gates, Paul McCartney, and criminals—in fact, among all men throughout evolutionary history—points to an important concept in evolutionary biology: female choice.

Women often say no to men. Men have had to conquer foreign lands, win battles and wars, compose symphonies, author books, write sonnets, paint cathedral ceilings, make scientific discoveries, play in rock bands, and write new computer software in order to impress women so that they will agree to have sex with them. Men have built (and destroyed) civilization in order to impress women, so that they might say yes.

Translation – Guys will do almost anything to get laid. Once they get what they want (sex) they become less driven and less productive.

8. The midlife crisis is a myth—sort of. – Many men do buy red sports cars and stylish clothes in midlife. Is this because they are trying to recapture their youth? Not quite, the authors say:

Many middle-aged men do go through midlife crises, but it's not because they are middle-aged. It's because their wives are.

Therefore, if a fifty year old man is married to a twenty five year old woman he has no midlife crisis. Therefore….

When he buys a shiny-red sports car, he's not trying to regain his youth; he's trying to attract young women to replace his menopausal wife by trumpeting his flash and cash.

Translation – Middle aged men like hot younger women. Addendum – Men are jerks.

9. It's natural for politicians to risk everything for an affair (but only if they're male).

“……while powerful men throughout Western history have married monogamously (only one legal wife at a time), they have always mated polygynously (they had lovers, concubines, and female slaves).”

It is not because they are powerful that they want to have illicit sex. Becoming powerful is a great way to get laid.

Men strive to attain political power, consciously or unconsciously, in order to have reproductive access to a larger number of women. Reproductive access to women is the goal, political office but one means. To ask why the President of the United States would have a sexual encounter with a young woman is like asking why someone who worked very hard to earn a large sum of money would then spend it.

Bill Clinton started his career as a law professor. I’m sure there was a pool of women around the school that he could seduce. Then he was elected attorney general of Arkansas. The pool of women grew. Then he became governor and it grew even more. Then of course he became president and the pool was huge. The trouble was that opportunity was smaller and the consequences for getting caught were great.

Translation – Most of what men do, what they achieve, the wealth and power they accumulate is so that they can have more sex with more women.

10. Men sexually harass women because they are not sexist – Contrary to commonly accepted ideas that sexual harassment is about power and not sex, the authors state that it is about both. They bring about a study to illustrate men’s attitudes about sex:

Studies demonstrate unequivocally that men are far more interested in short-term casual sex than women. In one now-classic study, 75 percent of undergraduate men approached by an attractive female stranger agreed to have sex with her; none of the women approached by an attractive male stranger did. Many men who would not date the stranger nonetheless agreed to have sex with her.

Therefore, men sexually harass women because they want to have sex with them. The leering overweight boss that “accidentally” rubs up against a woman and is always asking her out for a drink? He wants her to have sex with him and is using his power to try and get it.

The author states that men harass women like they used to harass other men…as a competitive way to dominate and get ahead in the workplace.

Many women legitimately complain that they have been subjected to abusive, intimidating, and degrading treatment by their male coworkers. Browne points out that long before women entered the labor force, men subjected each other to such abusive, intimidating, and degrading treatment.

Translation – Men act like jerks because they are driven to have sex.

I’ve never known quite what to think about evolutionary biology and psychology. It boils down to the idea that men are driven above all to reproduce and that women are driven by maternal instincts and a desire for stability and security for their children. Are we really as simple as all that?


Friday, July 06, 2007

Weekend Roundup 7/6-7/7 

Can you believe its back? It seems like forever since I've actually been here on a Friday to do one of these roundups. I've missed it!

It is Friday, the sun is shining beautifully, I finished my research papers that are due on Monday, Terri is off all next week, and the kids are gearing up to go to camp. We have a reservation at a casino resort hotel on Monday night. Let the good times roll!

In the meantime, please enjoy this little stroll I took around the blogworld:

Ellen needs some new clothes. Lime needed a hug.

Jules is wondering about her share of the American Dream. Thomai wonders who killed the electric car.

Breazy is headed to the beach. Tara is ready for fall to arrive.

Caren misses Chinese food. Irina doesn’t miss her old computer monitor.

Jerry received a birthday gift. Barn Goddess received a rockin’ award.

Teresa is back from Kansas City. Aka Monty is gearing up for the blogathon.

Joan puts up a picture of her husband….well, you’ve got to see for yourself.

Walker had to straighten out his brother’s mess. Andie had to redecorate her living room and she did a marvelous job!

Michael reviews “Wall Street”. Used to Be Me reviews some of her favorite posts.

Jenny went to a family reunion. Margaret went to an Ethiopian restaurant.

Rain discusses the inspiration of angels. Kathy discusses the inspiration of Regina.

Amanda is enjoying spending time with her dad. Redneck Diva enjoyed her 4th of July…flooding be damned!

T. Marie has had some sleepless nights. Melessa had a great 4th of July!

New Wave Gurly is off to New York. Leslie is ready for the rain to go away.

Jack wonders what songs make you cry. Patrick wonders about man’s vanity.

Satellite Sky tried to mow his lawn…..and then it started raining again. Sudie Girl tried to watch Xanadu and was no better for the experience!

Penny went for a bike ride. Susan went for a swim.

Splendid takes a look in the mirror. Steph takes a look at some flags.

Vickie writes a prayer for a soldier. Karen writes about blunders and blenders.

I hope you enjoyed. Have an absolutely wonderful weekend my friends!



Thursday, July 05, 2007

Midweek Meanderings - Thursday Edition 

It is midweek (well, not really) and it is STILL raining. We are avoiding the fate of some of the areas north and east of here. We have no flooding, just puddle water and soaked lawns and gardens. My thoughts and prayers go out to those who have been forced from their homes because of the flooding.

It appears as if my job situation might be settled. Pending approval I have been offered a position within my district that I think I will enjoy very much. This is an administrative position at one of the district’s high schools. I feel a strong sense of relief and will be even more relieved when final approval is given. This has been more stressful than I have let on, and I hope it is finally over.

We thoroughly enjoyed our 4th of July festivities at my brother’s house last night. We swam in the pool, dined on grilled burgers, sausages, and hot dogs, sat around talking and laughing, and set off our fireworks after dark. This has become one of my favorite days of the year and I always look forward to my brother’s annual Independence Day bash.

Patrick was perfectly happy to set off his smoke bombs and snap those “poppers” everywhere he went. Aubree had relatively little interest in the fireworks, preferring to spend her time with her cousins.

I am pounding away at papers due for my classes this summer. I just finished a paper tonight on school based mental health programs and am now working on a paper on Oklahoma’s A.C.E. legislation – Oklahoma’s answer to No Child Left Behind.

As part of all this research I have been looking at a lot of doctoral dissertations. Part of me looks at these 150 page monsters and thinks, “this isn’t so bad. I can do this.” Another part of my mind thinks, “OMG! I have to write one of THESE?”

Terri and I celebrate one year of living under the same roof today. Time does fly when you’re having fun!

This weekend will be spent getting both of the kids ready to go to camp. They both leave Monday morning and will be gone all week. I’m seeing a night at the casino in my very near future!

Jerry turned 47 today. Please stop by and wish him a happy birthday!

So how is YOUR week going?


Tuesday, July 03, 2007

Open Wide! 

I just returned from a visit to the dentist’s office. I really dislike going to the dentist. I don’t know if I have a phobia, but I definitely do not enjoy the experience. I don’t like the scraping sounds, the smell, latex gloves yanking my lips back and rummaging around in my mouth. I don’t like any of it. However, it is one of those necessary evils that life subjects us to. I rank it slightly above prostrate exams, but only barely. I psyched myself up and walked into the dentist’s office. The pretty young lady asked, “is there anything we can do to make you more comfortable?” Well, a couple of shots of tequila would be nice, but I guess 8:00 a.m. is a little early for that. Give me enough of those and I won’t care what you do in my mouth.

Have you noticed that dental insurance has become not such a good deal? I pay close to $1000 a year in premiums for a maximum yearly benefit of $1500. What’s up with that? Dental insurance is a great deal as long as you don’t actually need any work done on your teeth. If you do, grab your checkbook and clench your teeth, because it is time to cancel that planned vacation.

I plan on taking the kids to the dentist after they get back from summer camp. Aubree, like me, is a little phobic about sitting in the dentist’s chair. She is prone to cavities in spite of good dental hygiene and hates all the drilling. I have to fight Patrick to get him to brush regularly but he has never had a cavity in his life. There is not always justice in the world of dentistry.

Open wide!


Sunday, July 01, 2007


One of the guest speakers four our class this weekend offered this handy flowchart as a way to solve any management problem. I found it quite humorous and thought I'd share.

I hope everyone is having a great weekend. I'll be back when my head clears from all the schoolwork I've been doing this weekend!


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